Welcome to another fun Saturday Playdate! Today we're playing with Tara from Mommy Head Adventures. Tara is a super sweet person that I have had the pleasure of meeting through blogging. She is also an awesome mom! Her blog is all about her two beautiful children, "Bear" and "Lion", and their family adventures. You'll also find some giveaways, blog hops and just random fun mixed in.
When you're done here, please check out Tara's blog and give her some comment love. Tell her you stopped by from the playdate.
Hello! My name is Tara, aka Mommy Head, and I am honored to be able to stop by and play today.
The life I live is one great adventure. Between church commitments, doctor’s appointments and therapy sessions, there is never a dull moment around my place. That is the life I have been given and I love it!
My kids are special. Not only in the way that all kids are, but in other ways. Bear, my 2 year old, just graduated out of the term special needs and into developmentally delayed. She had Infantile Spasms (IS, a rare form of epilepsy) at 5 1/2 months and that changed the course of my life forever. Lion, my almost 9 month old, was born with Down syndrome. It came as a shock.
My special kiddos make up everything in my life. If you had told me years ago to be prepared for this, I would have laughed at you. Now, I spend my days trying to help others realize that they should be prepared for the unexpected in life.
If there is anything that I have learned from my special kiddos and their diagnosis’, it is that you can’t have it both ways. I desperately want people to accept my children as normal, and, yet, at the same time I want them to make room for their limitations. I want them to not make comments about things being retarded or how their children use words to communicate, not screams. And on the other hand, I want them to see that my children cannot do all the things their kids can do (like use words to communicate, not screams ;).
I have come to realize, I may not be able to change what other people do and say, but I can change how I react. It would be easy to get offended and stomp away, never to speak to those people again. But, then the things that bother me win. I guess you can say that I have put on my mommy pants and grow up. My kids need that from me.
Mommies, our kids need us to be able to change how we react. Whether your kids are special like mine, or as normal as they come, people will always say things that cause our feels to get hurt. If we teach our kids to run from that, I personally think we may be stunting their emotional growth. But, if we teach our kids, by example, how to overlook the hurtful things, then I believe we are setting them up to be successful in hurtful, difficult situation in life.
What things in life have made you have to grow up and look past potential things that can be annoying? How do you react when people say things about you or your kids that can be hurtful? Any tips to leave to help this mommy handle it with more grace?
Thanks for stopping by for our playdate! I hope you had fun! If you would like to come over for a playdate, let me know in a comment or an email.
3 comments:
Great post! I am fast to defend my kids if anyone says anything that isn't completely positive! :) Evan is extremely energetic to say the least and my aunt will sometimes joke about it(once is OK, but she does it more often than she should) - I'm always there to his defense.
I love Bear's face in that picture. So CUTE!
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Good post! I find myself being less defensive about the comments that people make about my son. But it's hard some days and I'm trying to get better. I know that my daughters are watching how I react and are modeling me in every way. And I want them to react to people with grace and not anger.
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