Unfortunately, Rylie is following in my footsteps. She is very sensitive and cries easily. She still cries every morning when we get to school. This has been going on for at least a year now. It happened at her old school and it is happening at her new school. Some days she just does it for show and I know she isn't really upset, but some days, like this week, there really is something going on. I can tell the difference. She has been a little over the top this week and I can tell that something is bothering her.
On Monday when I was getting her dressed, I put a skirt on her that had a snap on it and she went ballistic. She started throwing a fit because she couldn't snap the skirt by herself. She is very independent and likes to do things by herself, so I just figured she was upset that it was a little hard to snap, even for me. But then Tuesday I told her it was going to get cold the next day and she started crying saying that she couldn't put her jacket on by herself. By then I pretty much figured that all of that had something to do with her bad mornings this week. Sure enough, I was right.
One of the things I like about her school is that they promote independence and are really trying to get the kids ready for kindergarten. It seems like they are pushing her a little hard, though. I don't think they are being mean to her by any means, and I know that most of the problem is Rylie, but she gets really frustrated when she can't do something and I think they are expecting a little much of her right now. She has been in the "threes" class ever since she started in September, even though she doesn't turn three until January. Mentally, that is where she needs to be. She has the intelligence to be in that class. Physically, though, she hasn't had the practice time on motor skills that a lot of those other kids have had. So yesterday I decided to call her teacher to see if what I was thinking was the problem really was. Because honestly, it breaks my heart to see my little girl cry. I mean really, just look at this sweet face...
So yeah, I was right. She is getting really upset when she can't do something. They ask her to keep trying and I think it is very overwhelming to her. I explained to her teacher that I understand why they are doing what they are doing, but we need to work together to try to help her and make these situations a little less traumatic for her. I also spoke with the owner Tuesday evening. We talked about how Rylie is still only two, regardless of how smart she is, and she still needs more practice. She agreed with me and said she will talk to the teachers and help Rylie with all of this. I absolutely love the owner of the daycare.
OK, so believe it or not, the subject of the post is not so much that sweet little girl as it is me. When I called her teacher, I started crying as soon as I started talking. Ugh. I can't help it. I have tried and tried to keep from crying in these types of situations, and nothing works. It is so embarrassing! I'm sure her teacher hung up the phone and thought "geez, no wonder Rylie is such a mess, look at her mother!" This really isn't a big deal, and I'm sure that it will be better by the end of this week. Rylie is making a big deal out of it though, and when she is upset, I'm upset.
Obviously, this situation isn't the only situation that has brought me to tears. Like I said, any time I am mad, sad, upset, etc. I cry. I avoid a lot of conversation when I am upset because I don't want to sound like a blubbering idiot. There are times when I really should stand up for myself, but I don't, because I know how I will act.
So I ask you, my friends, is anyone else out there like this? And are you able to keep your tears at bay? How do you do it? I need to figure out something, and fast. As my kids get older, I'm sure there will be plenty of times that I will be upset and will need to talk to them. I can't break down and cry like I do. But I'm 35 years old and I'm still a big cry baby. I don't know if there is any way to stop it.
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I'm the exact same way! I can be a very emotional person and it's quite embarrassing sometimes. I wish I knew of a cure hah
Nope - you're not alone. I'm the same way too. When I know that hubby and I are going to have a serious talk about something - I usually have to preface our discussion with, "I'm not angry, sad, mad. It's just the way I am."
Oh boy are you not alone with being a cry baby. I'm the same way. And when it comes to sappy stuff, I'm tenfold worse since having Lovie. It's so hard not to cry sometimes, too- because you tell yourself not to and that it gets worse and your voice cracks and UGH!!! I'm sorry I don't really have any advice to make you quit crying; but at least you should know that you're NOT the only one.
I am like this for sure. I really hope Allison (and the others) don't get this from me, but what can I do. I cry out of frustration sometimes, same as Rylie, when I can't do something. I might have been having a bad day once but I cried in a step aerobics class because I couldn't follow the new teacher! (Thankfully it was a small frustration cry no one noticed...) I don't know how to stop it, I try to think of good thoughts like frosted sugar cookies with sprinkles or yummmy cake, but sometimes the adult tears just come. =(
I know you may have a hard time believing this, but this is a gift. It's a gift that you can express yourself, get emotional, and that you are so passionate about your children that you are moved to tears. I would much rather this dilema then being stone cold and devoid of expression.
I don't have this problem ALL THE TIME, but I have been guilty of breaking down and crying in the daycare Director's office. The only advice I would have is to try and practice your conversation before you have it. Take time out, look in the mirror, and rehearse what you are going to say. Then, maybe you can remove a little of the emotion from it before you have the converstaion. It may work, it may not, but at the end of the day, you should be proud of being You...a caring, loving, albeit, emotional momma.
I dont consider myself an emotional person, but I've been crying over this whole daycare thing. It's just stressful when you can't reason with your kiddo. And it breaks my heart when Babygirl is upset. I cried when I was giving our current daycare our two weeks notice. I almost cried when I was telling the new daycare about Babygirl and her bouts of getting overwhelmed at times. Being a mommy is hard, but you're doing the right things. Talking to the daycare and voicing your opinions is good. Nothing is going to change if you just sit back. Hang in there Momma!
I'm not a mom yet but i'm suchhh a crybaby. I am thankful though, as my family doesn't talk about anything that makes anyone else in teh family mad, sad, or upset in any way. We just avoid SO many topics and I hate it. I knew from the time I was in middle school that I personally need to discuss things that bother me and that I would someday find a guy who I could communicate with really well and have a family that talks about stuff. So although it's frustrating to always be the cry baby, I much prefer it over avoiding so many topics. And, if nothing else, at least your kids won't be afraid to cry in front of you because they'll learn it's okay to cry. I would love to have that with my mom! :)
The worst thing about being a cry baby for me, is crying when I get mad or frustrated. I want so badly sometimes to just let people have a piece of my mind, but instead I just cry, lol.
I honestly think that my one year old daughter is more emotionally stable than I am. My hormones are everywhere! You are not alone. My daughter won't be attending daycare but when she's old enough for kindergarten I'm sure I'll be a blubbering mess, lol. Hang in there, hopefully it gets easier from here!
I have no advice, the older I get, the more emotional I am too! :)
Okay...I think you just need to accept that you are an emotional person and that you are probably not going to change. And that Rylie might be that way to. But it is not bad so don't feel like it is :) Moat kids Rylie's age want to be independent, especially girls. You just need to constantly reiterate that things take time and practice when she gets upset that she can't do something. In the next months she is going to mature alot. I am sure she will grow out of it. If not, you will both be crying together...LOL!
My daughter is very emotional. She does cry often, but it seems as she feels much deeper than other children. Her emotions do not only reflect her own feelings, but she easily gets upset for other people, like when she found out my brother was going to have surgery.
My best friend is the same way and has been as far as I can remember. I feel so bad because I have made her cry a few times, over what I thought were little things.
I hear you should like the front of your teeth if you are about to cry...hope it works!
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